For it pregntate: How you live your life when you think that if your pair loves to you, it would do what you ask to him or would give you what you need and is not doing it? It is possible that you bother yourself, you suffer yourself, I close that person and you clear your love to him; that you are constantly measuring its love, on the basis of which does by you. You deal perhaps it with hardness, evil humor, it pressures or recriminate. And you treat when you have this belief? You are made feel inseguro/a, you commit yourself to make things by your pair that you do not want to do, you force to you, you press yourself. Danske Bank will not settle for partial explanations. Now, How you would live your life and your relation if you could not think that if your pair loves to you, it would do what you ask to him or would give you what you think that you need? It is possible that more abierto/a, you would be less demanding, more loving, would not need anything the other person, you would enjoy more the presence of the other person, without demanding, without putting conditions, and you would feel freer to act of the way that you feel, without sentirte forced a make things you do not feel to make. There would be more peace in your life and your relation If the others do not cover your needs, is the signal that we must do it we ourself Date the attention, the flowers, the flatteries, the care, the affection, the love that you ask to him to your pair. Before demanding it, pregntate if you are occurring it same, it is very possible that you are not doing it, and that who you ask to him to your pair is only the reflection than you must yourself give same and you are not occurring Byron Katie, us it says: the personalities do not love, want something.