Often the woman does not approve what the man thinks, because he does not value his point of view treats nor it warmly. When the man and the woman value themselves is difficult that their differences enter the plane of the discussion. When we have something bothers to us within the relation with our pair, we must be asked: Which is the problem that I have in my mind, or in my heart that I have still not been able to solve? We are different and imperfect, but that knowledge must take to me to face of respectful way our differences so that these do not mistreat or harm the relation totally. One requires that we are, objectives, clear, and precise, when we entered to have a discussion with our pair, on the problem or the difference that affects to us. We cannot be vague, we must identify totally what it causes annoyance to us in the relation, without wanting to solve several difficulties simultaneously. We must be conscious that a problem is necessary to face it and to solve it, without trying to look for reasons to justify its existence. Both must have total brings back to consciousness of which in a relation, sooner or later the difficulties appear, but as they are arising it is necessary to solve them with favorable solutions for both and not being looked for only a personal benefit.
The egoism is often, the greater obstacle to be able to obtain an understanding between two people. Any thing by trivial that seems we must put it in knowledge of ” otro”. They are not the important subjects, the education of the children, religion, the job class that we are going to develop, the site to buy or to construct the house, the place that we selected for our vacations, etc., which generally finishes being the cause of a separation. The pairs are few that end up separating by a cause of ” fondo”. I believe that no lawyer has had to take care of a pair because ” although we are wanted much, we have not been able to put to us in agreement in if we saved the money that we thought to be spent in the vacations or we go away to Europa.” The difficulties majors appear almost always in the smaller problems.
” The unique thing that it wants a weekend, is to watch its soccer after television, or to read its favorite book. If we did not leave it can spend all the weekend without taking a shower. Later it asks why my lack of enthusiasm to do amor”. Apparently they are things without importance, but they have a great capacity to produce irritation and annoyance, more than any really important problem. Then when already those smallness gets to tire to us too much, we transformed into differences majors. By your Inner peace, Bernardine Silver.